The Principle of the Fulcrum

I am often asked, “Wayne, how do you balance ministry and family, because here’s ministry and here’s family (Diagram A.).

How do you balance the two? It’s so hard. Well, if you think of it in that way you are wrong in the first place. There’s a scientific theorem that says if your basic premise is off every subsequent conclusion that you come to thereafter will also be off. So you’ve got to make sure that you’ve got the right premise. It’s not ministry and family. Ministry includes family. It’s all ministry. (See diagram B)

My wife is a part of my congregation so that when I spend time with my wife I’m spending time with someone from our church. I take my son with me on mission trips and people say, “Well, you are taking your son.” Yes, but he goes to our church. He’s one of my congregants. If I loose my family it doesn’t matter what I do in the church. Many of us think it’s okay to sacrifice our family on the altar of religion. That’s called offering your family to Molech and having your sons and daughters pass through the fire so that you will have favor with the gods.

It’s immoral. Now we were taught that way, so don’t feel guilty about it if you’ve done that. We’ve all done that. We were taught that way. The reason I have any basic premise by which I can stand in the pulpit, with any credence or veracity, is because my family is doing okay. If not, I need to get my house in order.

Just imagine in front of me a very long yardstick with a fulcrum right in the middle. You balance the stick with the fulcrum. We think that if we have a balanced life we’ve got to have everything still. “You better not get in trouble at school son. Nobody move. I’ve got balance.”

Anybody knows that a balanced life is not a static life. That’s a myth. Life is moving all the time. Sometimes the Holy Spirit knows that there’s a battlefront forming in your family with your wife. So if we say, “Don’t move. Don’t talk. I’ve got balance.” The myth gets more and more infected and it will eat your time. We are not talking about how to add time. We are talking about how to kill the stuff that eats our time.

When the Holy Spirit starts to put a finger on your life you can feel the weight. He’ll say, “There’s a battlefront forming in your marriage. You need to spend time there.”
“No, I can’t. Everything’s balanced. Honey, don’t talk to me about that.”
If your son has trouble at school you might snap, “Don’t talk to me about that. Don’t get into trouble at school. I’m balanced.” You can see what’s going to happen. You’re going to explode and all of your bricks are going to come crashing down.

To know what balance truly is you’ve got to know the principle of the fulcrum. The fulcrum is like your heart. When the Holy Spirit says, “Wayne, there’s problems happening in your marriage. I see a battlefront forming.” What do you do to keep balance? You move your fulcrum and you deal with it. Just tell your people you’re going to spend time with your wife and move your fulcrum, your heart, that direction. (Diagram C)

And when the Holy Spirit says, “You have trouble brewing in your finances.” Move your fulcrum that way. Get the help that you need.

When the Spirit reveals that your son needs you to spend time with him move your fulcrum that way. Your church needs you to help a supervisor or team leader in ministry. Move your fulcrum that way. This is called the principle of the moving fulcrum. It’s really simple.

When you understand the principle of the fulcrum, probably for the first time, you are understanding what it means to be directed by the Spirit of God. The Holy Spirit delights in men and women who follow His lead. He’ll lead you, teach you and instruct you in the way that you should go. Psalm. 32:9 “Do not be as the horse or as the mule which have no understanding, Whose trappings include bit and bridle to hold them in check, Otherwise they will not come near to you.”

The Holy Spirit is saying, “I will teach you, I will instruct you in the way that you should go.”
“Will you really?”
“Absolutely. Just make sure that you follow my lead.”
“How?”
“Move your fulcrum to what I’m telling you to do.”

Do you know what we often do? We go the very opposite direction without even realizing it. The Holy Spirit says, “Wayne there’s something happening in your home.” What do I do? I bury myself in my work. See what you are doing. You are moving your fulcrum the other way. You are setting yourself up for a major disaster.

We must understand the principle of the fulcrum if we are to become skilled and successful in whatever God calls us to do.

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