Marriage should be likened more to a marathon than a sprint. One of the tough things is that you and your partner are going through this marathon and although character needs to be built along the way, often you don’t build it at the same time. We are going to talk about some of the things God asks us to pursue in this race.
“So then let us pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another” (Rom. 14:19).
Pursue peace and the thing that build up one another. Let’s talk about three building blocks today to a loving marriage.
- Choose to Build a Lasting Friendship
It is so important to be friends. A lot of people don’t fall out of love, but they fall out of friendship.
“Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Give preference to one another in honor” (Rom. 12:10).
It is so critical in the area and time of dating that you build friendship and build it as deeply as you can. Enjoy being with one another. One of the most important things is to build friendship before you say, “I do.”
Communicate with One Another
Listening is the first step of communication. We’ve got to give time for listening.
Choose to Believe the Best
“Love always looks for the best; never looks back but keeps going to the end.”
There are always going to be two sides, but don’t become the prosecuting attorney for your family.
- Build Life Priorities that Correct
Life priorities are like something that calls us back. It’s a point that helps us to fit, to correct and to adjust back to.
Have a good relationship with God and with one another. Do not make divorce an option. Commit to the same blueprint. Choose the Bible as your guidebook for living.
God is saying that if you will stay close to the Word of God and make that your map, He will correct you in the smaller ways that helps you to stay on.
Make a Commitment to What is Right, Whatever the Cost
If we are going to agree with God, we have got to make a commitment early on that we will protect our relationship. And we will do whatever we need to do to get it right if it drifts too far off. God takes pleasure in restored relationships.
Listen to Counsel and Accept Discipline
Don’t ever be above getting counsel.
- Build Your Understanding of Your Eternal Assignment
“Husbands, love your wives just as Christ also loved the church” (Eph. 5:25).
God is saying, “Husbands, the way you love your wife is designed to be a living object lesson to a watching world of how I love the church or love people.”
This gives people hope. It’s a huge assignment so, for the sake of the Kingdom, we’ve got to do well. That’s our eternal assignment.
God says, “Will you represent me as a family? In doing so, you will be able to lead people through the jungle and through the darkness because you will be showing people the way. I will walk through the valley of the shadow of death with you and you will come through authentic. That is the best kind of light that lights the way, and it will take you to the finish line.”