Another Man’s Wife

Let me remind you of the story of Abraham’s servant that was sent on a mission to find a wife. This trusted servant was sent to Abraham’s hometown to find a bride for Isaac, his master’s son. This woman he was looking for was not to be his wife, nor Abraham’s wife, but the wife of Isaac, Abraham’s son.

Gen. 24:2 & 4 “And Abraham said to his servant, the oldest of his household, who had charge of all that he owned, “…but you shall go to my country and to my relatives, and take a wife for my son Isaac.

Gen. 24:37 & 38 “And my master made me swear, saying, ‘You shall not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, in whose land I live; but you shall go to my father’s house, and to my relatives, and take a wife for my son.

The servant headed out on his journey taking with him the necessary items to court a woman, camels, gold, and precious things. He traveled across the desert with his gifts. When he gets to Abraham’s hometown, he meets a woman named Rebekah. She greets him, waters the camels, and he realizes that this woman is the bride God has chosen for Isaac.

Gen. 24:10, 12 & 22 “Then the servant took ten camels from the camels of his master, and set out with a variety of good things of his master’s in his hand; and he arose, and went to Mesopotamia, to the city of Nahor… And he said, “O LORD, the God of my master Abraham, please grant me success today, and show lovingkindness to my master Abraham… Then it came about, when the camels had finished drinking, that the man took a gold ring weighing a half-shekel and two bracelets for her wrists weighing ten shekels in gold.

After he finds Rebekah, he courts her for Isaac. He presents the gifts he brought for her and her family. He then takes her on a long journey across the desert. How many days? How many weeks? We don’t know. What we do know is this: he protected and cared for this woman across the miles of desert. 

Gen. 24:53, 59 & 61 “And the servant brought out articles of silver and articles of gold, and garments, and gave them to Rebekah; he also gave precious things to her brother and to her mother . . . Thus they sent away their sister Rebekah and her nurse with Abraham’s servant and his men. Then Rebekah arose with her maids, and they mounted the camels and followed the man. So the servant took Rebekah and departed.

The Bible says, that when they returned to where Isaac was, she asks, “Who is that man?” The servant responds, “That is my master, and yours.” She alights from her camel, goes and becomes his wife.

Gen. 24:64, 65 & 67 “And Rebekah lifted up her eyes, and when she saw Isaac she dismounted from the camel. And she said to the servant, “Who is that man walking in the field to meet us?” And the servant said, “He is my master.” Then she took her veil and covered herself… Then Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and he took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her;

Now the servant could have said, “Now wait a minute here. I found her. I courted her. I’m the one that got her from the far land. I took her through the desert. I’m the one that protected her. Maybe she should be my wife.”

If he did that, he probably would have been executed!

You may be asking how does this story apply to us as pastors and leaders?

The church is called the Bride of Christ. The church is not our bride. We don’t want to fall in love with another man’s bride and think she belongs to us.

We need to be willing to allow His bride to blossom and grow for the sake of her Husband. We are given a mission, like Abraham’s servant, to find His bride, steward her until she finds her Master, and then rejoice in letting her go to Him!

Always remember our assignment as God’s servants is to bring the church, the Bride of Christ, to her Bridegroom, Jesus Christ, but she is not our bride!

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