How to Love the Unlovable

Doing vs. Knowing

In John 13, it says, “If you know these things you are blessed if you do them.” Does God say if we know He will bless us? No, but if we do, He will bless us.

The Bible says sometimes we think the more we know, the better we are, but God says, “No, if you know these things, you are blessed if you do them.” Is it through the knowing that our blessing will come or through the doing? We can know a lot, yet the blessings are going to come through the doing.

Agape Love

When it comes to loving the unlovable, Peter has some wonderful tips for us.

“Since you have in obedience to the truth purified your souls for a sincere love of the brethren, fervently love one another from the heart” (1 Pet. 1:22).

This love that they are talking about is a Greek word, agape. That word is God’s love and that kind of love is not determined by somebody’s performance. It is determined by the Father’s command. It is sourced vertically, not fueled horizontally. It is not determined by people’s response to it. It is determined by the Father’s heart. It is fueled by heaven. That is called agape love; that kind of love does not fail.

A Fervent Love

How do you know if it’s agape? The word right before “love one another from the heart” is the word “fervently.” Now, the word fervently means “stretching and straining.” That is Greek for a stretching and straining agape love for one another. There are certain people who stretch and strain our love. That is the quality of this agape love. It can be stretched without snapping; it can be strained and pulled.

The Proof of Love is Seen When Your Love is Stretched

“Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Pet. 4:8).

An agape love is able to cover a multitude of sins. It does not hide it or endorse it, but actually reduces the strength and power of that sin.

That is the kind of love that God has for us. God’s love stretches around all of our sins. Does it diminish His love? No, but it is just like when God stretched His love around the world to cover a multitude of sins.

Think about the multitude of sins His love had to stretch to redeem the world. Just think of all the accumulative total of everyone’s sin God’s love had to stretch around and encompass. This was not to endorse or ignore sin. God gave us an example of the kind of love that He wants for us, so that we can have a stretching and straining love that goes over sin. Not to endorse, ignore or deny it happened, but in order to reduce the threat of that sin and thus love begins to reverse its effects.

Put Your Trust in God Alone

Not in man! Put your trust in God alone.

Agape love is only possible when you put your trust in God – not in man. There is only one Person worthy to sustain our trust and it is not man. Jesus knew that.

“… Jesus, on His part, was not entrusting Himself to them, for He knew all men … for He Himself knew what was in man …” (John 2:24-25).

Jesus knew that there was a part of man that was not going to be able to sustain His trust. So He did not trust Himself to man. He entrusted Himself to the Father only, but He said to maintain that agape for others.

Maintain an Agape Love for Others

Man is not going to be able to or be worthy of sustaining our trust. They will fail us. Not because they are insidious or evil, but because we are human. God knows there is a part of man that is always going to be on sand and not on cement. So, we must trust God and agape man.

“But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you …” (Luke 6:27).

Love your enemies with agape love. That is the same love that God has for us that covers a multitude of sins. Agape love is a powerful love.

We Can Give People Room to Fail and Still “Agape” Them

When I see people stumble, I still agape them because my trust is not in them. My trust is in God.

God wants us to be a people after His own heart. We have to understand what Jesus did – He trusted God and agaped man. Then, we will have a love that can stretch and strain. It will reduce the consequences of sin. We become more like Jesus. We will have a love that comes, not based on your response, but a love that is based on the command of my Father. Then we put our trust in God. It doesn’t matter what happens; we know our Father will work this together for good.

When we develop a trust in God, we can agape man. When that happens, we will able to have His heart to love the unlovable.

Comments 6

  1. Yes, I totally agree with God and how Shawn Felipe, is feeling. God will never fail us. We fail. Our society today need to have more AGAPE LOVE for man, because our HEAVENLY FATHER commanded us to do so.

  2. Yes, it because of Jesus asking God to forgive for they know not what they do while he was dying on the cross that I became a believer through your ministry 20 years ago in Hilo. God has really shaped me to love the same. It is because of HIS love that he is showing me a way of hope in visions and dreams. Please, please, please contact me.

    Jamie Moore

  3. WOW..POWERFUL!!!! I needed to read and hear this….only GOD knows whats on my heart
    and he truly send the right message to me today. I feel so BLESSED today, that I have God on my side for the rest of my living life. My hopes and dreams are in him!!!!

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