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Etiquette rules help us value other human beings. Each of us should behave respectfully toward others, regardless of their age or gender. Manners are important because they build character, build self-esteem and help create a positive environment.
Manners require you to discipline yourself. Manners not only build character, but they build self-esteem: when you’re polite to someone, it builds their self-esteem. If you run them down or if you’re impolite, they feel de-valued. When you use proper manners and etiquette, you attribute value to another human being, even when they don’t feel good about themselves. As you use etiquette and you’re polite, self-esteem and a positive environment are being built.
If people are always rude to each other, then the other person is not being valued. Every human being is worthy of at least being recognized that they’re alive.
It’s important to recognize that there are different types of people. Some people are introverts, while others are extroverts. When introverts are around people, people drain their batteries. And when they’re away from people, their batteries fill back up. Extroverts love people and when they’re with people, their batteries fill up. When they’re away from people, their batteries drain.
Regardless of their differences, both extroverts and introverts love people, so make the effort to recognize everyone. Friendships will be built and that’s what makes etiquette so important.
“Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails …” (1 Cor. 13:4-8a).
Here are the qualities of love: love is patient, love is kind, love does not bear grudges, does not hold accounts or offenses. Love reflects etiquette and etiquette reflects love. We call it etiquette or manners, but it really is love being practically applied in everyday situations giving value to people.
Love is polite and that’s why etiquette is biblical. It’s not just humanistic manners; it is biblical. Etiquette and politeness are more important than you’ll ever know. If you don’t use politeness and etiquette, you’ll never advance in life because they are something that help people around you feel valuable. Value is imparted to people when you are polite.
Etiquette not only reflects love and biblical love; etiquette reflects humility. When you’re kind and polite to others, you’re reminded that the world does not revolve around you and you are not the epicenter of the universe. When you show gratefulness to people, it shows humility. Humility does not mean you’re weak. Humility is like the gentle bow of a branch that is laden with fruit; it takes a strong tree to hold the fruit.
Top Ten List of Basic Manners
Number 1: Reply when someone speaks to you.
Number 2: Give appropriate eye contact.
Number 3: Give compliments to others.
Number 4: Dress appropriately.
Number 5: Practice active listening.
Number 6: Open the door for others. This is often tough for men as well as ladies.
Number 7: Speak clearly; don’t mumble.
Number 8: Be punctual, which means be on time. There will be times when you have no control over circumstances, but for the most part, be known as someone who arrives on time.
Number 9: Use table manners.
Number 10: Leave things cleaner than when you arrived.
These are disciplines that will help you to be promoted, to be used by God and to let people around you know how valuable you are.